I was reading a post by one of my friends that talked about female ejaculation and I wondered about that. I mean, not female orgasm. I know about that. I talking about the full on squirt. Now, don't get all grossed out on me. We have been familiar if not comfortable with this concept as it relates to males for a very long time! But, we as women don't talk about it and most don't even know about it. Therefore, I was wondering about it. Wondering often leads to googleing for me and probably for you too. If you're reading this, you'll probably end up googleing it. Anyway, I tried looking for "valid" information and realized that there wasn't very much information at all about it. Most of it was very inconclusive or sketchy. In my mind I'm thinking "WHY" Why is there little to no information about this. Why aren't women screaming at the top of their lungs to get this stuff investigated, research funded or what ever it takes to verify the possibility of this event. I assume again that this female ejaculation which is brought on by the stimulation of the G-spot is actually pleasurable and something to be sought after. I repeat, this is an assumption, based on the idea that ejaculation for men is pleasant. Well, when I asked myself why I realized that many women are still (for the most part) in the dark ages when it comes to sexuality and sexual practice. I feel that I have to define sexuality and sexual practice as different from the frantic race toward orgasm. I’m calling sexual practice the practical decision to “practice” sex with the intention of being fully present, to give and receive healing and pleasure, with the gradual effect of improving the techniques associated with the act.
Note: It may be very likely that most people not just women are out of practice sexually. But I don’t know that for sure as I have not asked them all. But I have my suspicions ;-)
So back to the G-spot…
So as I’m reading the one or two medical articles associated with female ejaculation, I hear a lot about the G-spot. Now, I’ve heard of this little thing and have actually experienced it as well. The only thing is, usually when a man is stimulating it, it is not intentional or consistent for any period of time that would take me beyond the momentary increase in pleasure. He envariably changes position or gets distracted by his own urge to satisfy. Of course by this time in the reading my mind is turning to how can I learn my own body better so I can participate in keeping my G-spot in the game. Which brings me to THE ADULT NOVELTY STORE OR,,OR,,,
I’ve been to adult novelty stores in the past some times with friends and it is amazing to see the changes that some of us go through. The first time, I didn’t really know what I wanted, needed, or was willing to even try. I was nervous that the person behind the counter would think I was dirty and nasty or naïve and simple. Crazy right!!! I know. So I glide through, trying to maintain some composure as I wondered at the many toys available for purchase. It was amazing. I had to really think about what I liked. Some of these items can be really expensive so you do want to think (though not too much) about what you like before you spend your money. Before reading today, I was not sure what the little skinny curved dildos were for. I had an idea but never gave it more than a brief thought before moving on. But now, now I know that that little curved tip is for me! Me, me ME! Designed with my body in mind! Hopefully, you find at least some of this funny, I know I did, as I was processing it and realized that we all have a friend who needs support in making that first trip to the adult novelty store. Everyone, needs the chance to self explore. For most guys this happens earlier in life with the onset of Mr. Spanky…(lol) Most of us girls never do it, certainly not on the more invasive side. We are told that it is nasty or that it will damage our ability to be with a man. (interesting, thought there, let me digress, How is it that I can stick a penis in there that doesn’t know what its doing and not damage myself but do it myself and I know what I like, and end up damaged? Could it be that some men just want to do it their way and not include me? Back to the topic….) So if you have a girlfriend on the rebound, take her shopping, if you have a girlfriend who is sleeping with more men than she wants to sleep with, take her shopping, If you yourself are having a hard time figuring out how to have a female ejaculation take yourself shopping! And buy some toys, some books, some oils, a whip, a paddle, a video, whatEVER it takes to be fully connected with yourself. How can we expect someone else to study and deliver for us what we/I are unwilling to study and deliver for ourselves. Learn your own body ladies! Its beautiful. (For men, what about that prostate gland, eh?)
Comment and tell me about your first trip to the adult novelty store or if you are planning one. I’m sure it will be fascinating and fun to be free of the inhibitions surrounding something so precious and wonderful.
Love yo self Girls, Love yo self! No one can do it better!
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