BDSM! Lets get it cracking! The whip that is! Or is it? 052909

I was watching NCIS last night and the sub-theme was BDSM. This got me to thinking about Black people and BDSM. I don't know any black people that's into whips cracking on they ass and that type of thing (maybe the whole Sankofa think or Amistad) but I do think that we have a lot of potential to engage this style of eroticism if we felt free enough to pursue it. If you aren't aware of what BDSM is it stands for Bondage: B Discipline:D * Sadism: S *Masochism: M. And each of the four initials represents a separate complex set of rules and engagements. However, some of them often occur in pairs. Many of us, especially women (in my experience) are afraid to try something like this. Understandable since we don't want to be labeled a "Freak". There is also the question of rather taking pleasure in Dominating another person and if that is acceptable. And what about being a submissive. I've experimented with the sub role for about 1hour. I was in public with a friend and we wanted to see how people would react. Secretly I wanted to know how it felt to be totally dependent on someone, since this is not a role I take very often. It was fun!! We both had a blast. It was very brief and I came no where near my limits of tolerance even for regular life but the concept was exhilarating. If you tried it with your significant other it would be exciting to see what they actually want you to do. Try it! Give up ONE HOUR of POWER and see what your man (or woman) will come up with. I mean. Do you trust them? Do you really know their sexual fantasies? How far would you go to see yo baby get off! I mean really! I would definitely suggest talking about it first, reading and exploring it mentally before you implement this thing. Cause you don't want anyone to get hurt. I mean, like what if your girl wants to peg you? You gotta know that LUBE is essential....lol anyway. That is a subject for another time. But where do we draw the line for sexual exploration with our significant other. Do we draw lines? And are they always straight? Are they in the sand or in stone (cause sand changes). It would be great to have total sensual freedom with my partner. Knowing that our decision to be together does not mean the end of the road for my sensual development is exciting. Maybe we could expand on this topic. What do you think? It might be fun.

Sadism: gratification through the infliction of pain on another
Masochism: gratification through the receipt of pain or humiliation